Saying Goodbye (Bonus)

“Has someone you love just died? Are you wondering what to do next?”

If you answered “Yes”, you may find your answers here…

NOTE: For a limited time — while we renovate the site for Saying Goodbye — there is no charge for this additional eBook. You will receive it as a bonus with your purchase of A Eulogy to Remember.

Father Richard Gilbert The World Pastoral Care Center, Valparaiso, Indiana

A treasured friend….

“This wonderful resource, with its handy forms, will be a treasured friend for the bereaved.”

Dear Reader,

Does this describe you?

  • You have just lost (or are soon to lose) someone you care about very much.
  • You are faced with having to organize an event of great emotional significance — the funeral — at a time when you are under enormous stress.
  • You are determined to honor this person you’ve loved in a very special way … and aren’t sure where to begin.
  • You are overwhelmed at all the practical, legal, and financial decisions arising out of this death … all of which are now on your shoulders.

I’ve been there, too….

On March 13, 1984 at 6:13 in the morning, I awoke to the long-feared phone call. My grandmother, Jennie Sutherland Lindsay, was dead at the age of 93.

Although we had known for many months that Grandma was dying, her death still came as a profound shock. What’s worse, we were completely unprepared. Suddenly a mountain of difficult decisions and phone calls had to be made … immediately.

Will you know what to do?

Saying Goodbye with LoveMost people don’t know what to do, and ? just as unsettling ? they don’t know how to behave in the face of death. When the death comes, you as a survivor must not only cope with your grief, but at the same time organize a major event, the funeral, which carries great significance … not just emotional, but social and financial as well.

What should you do first? And then what? How do you cope with the urgent decisions and details to be handled now and in the days and weeks ahead?

At the time, I had no answers for those questions. That’s why I later wrote the book Saying Goodbye with Love … as a down-to-earth guidebook for survivors like you and me.

Dr. Bernie Siegel Best-selling author of Love, Medicine & Miracles

An excellent resource

“[This book] is an excellent resource for everyone to have and to read. As they say, no one gets out of this life alive — so why not be prepared for the transition? Your instructions and information make the move and transition easier.”

Priscilla Fong Montreal

a godsend …

“You cannot imagine what a godsend your book was, since neither my brother nor I had ever been appointed before as an Executor. In the confusion and sadness of losing someone so close, it is impossible to think and deal with all that has to be done without some sort of guide. Your book provided all the necessary information as to what should be done and it is still being used as a reference.”

Since Grandma’s death, I’ve also experienced the deaths of my sister, Toni; cousin, Bob; friend, Paul; my father; most of my aunts and uncles; and most recently, my mother.

Because I used to be a technical writer ? writing “how-to” manuals ? it was natural for me to organize all the tasks that need to be completed after a death … and to put them into a step-by-step order that anyone can follow.

Now, let me ask you…. Are you someone who always prepares in advance?

If so, you’ll appreciate being able to use Saying Goodbye with Love and the forms in The Funeral Tool Kit (included with your eBook) to make the funeral plans in advance.

On the other hand, if you’re like me … often leaving things til the last minute … this eBook will guide you step by step through the details of death, right in the middle of the crisis.

Here’s how I know that….

When my Dad died a couple of years ago … after several years of failing health … my Mom and I weren’t ready.

We certainly knew that his death was coming … and here I was the author of a book on how to prepare for a death in the family … and we STILL weren’t ready.

I had to pull out a copy of my own book and work through it all in the midst of the shock and chaos.

You see, even though I wrote the book myself … and have updated it many times … when I’m in the middle of a crisis, I’m not thinking straight.

I need the structure and “clear thinking” that I get from the checklists in Saying Goodbye with Love … and the forms in The Funeral Tool Kit.

Does that make sense?

If you (or someone you know) will be responsible for handling the practical, legal and financial decisions that accompany a death in the family, I invite you to use this eBook as a roadmap out of the chaos.

And if you have some suggestions that might help future readers of this eBook, I’d love to hear from you.

Yours sincerely,

Sheila Martin

Everything you need to know … to make good decisions at this difficult time

With Saying Goodbye with Love by your side, you’ll be able to overcome the biggest challenges of the newly bereaved:

You’ll lose your fear of the unknown

Many of the decisions and details surrounding death are completely foreign to most of us. If you have never had to choose a casket, or plan a funeral service, or claim insurance benefits, the fear of “doing it wrong” can be overwhelming. The straightforward information and reassurance in Saying Goodbye with Love will relieve many of your fears.

You’ll reduce your stress level

At the top of the standard rating scale used by psychologists to rate stressful life events is the death of a close family member.

Much of the stress comes from a feeling of “falling apart,” being unable to cope with the practical details. This book’s checklists will provide a structure to help you cope with these details. As well, the completed sections will give you a record of your progress through the stages of the crisis.

You’ll minimize the risk of regrets

Once life begins to return to normal, the survivors often have regrets. Perhaps they wish they’d organized the funeral differently (“We should have had them play that old Beatles song that Dad always loved”) or made different financial arrangements (“If only I’d known how much everything would cost”) or written something more personal for the obituary.

Because this guide includes so much concrete information and so many examples, you will be more likely to make choices that both salute the deceased and make your own future more workable.

Consider this: The dead are not in pain, but the living are. It’s important for the survivors to receive help and comfort while going through the ceremonies of death. My goal is to bring you knowledge of what your options are, and a realization that no matter what decisions you make, you are doing your very best.

Here is your chance to honor the one you have loved — by making the service a celebration of their life, and by grieving them well so you can get on with the rest of your life. You will survive. And it is right and natural that you do so. My heart goes out to you now.

What Do You Find the Hardest About Coping with This Death?

Let me ask you … Which of these common fears and questions are you struggling with, as you think about all the responsibilities facing you today?

      • I don’t want a “canned” funeral. This service must be unique and personal
      • I don’t know how to write a good obituary
      • Is it better to have a burial or cremation?
      • How much will all this cost? Is there any way to keep costs down?
      • I’m worried about all the paperwork and arrangements I’ll be responsible for after the funeral.
      • I just want to know how to make things easier for my own family, after I go.

If you nodded your head to any of the statements above, then you probably are someone who wants to take a strong, active role in this experience.

Wouldn’t it be comforting to have instant access to a simple, step-by-step guide that answers all these questions and more.

Because we are currently renovating the website where we sell Saying Goodbye separately, for a limited time we are making this eBook available as a bonus with your order of A Eulogy to Remember.

Your credit card purchase will be processed immediately, and you’ll get a receipt for your purchase with a transaction number and a link so that you can download all four items right away.

The whole process takes just a few minutes and you’ll be reading Saying Goodbye in about 5 minutes from right now.

When you get your eBook, scan it a couple of times and read the parts that jump out at you right away — then go back and read it cover to cover. (You can print it out, or read it on the screen, whichever works best for you.)

Begin completing some of the forms and checklists. You’ll start to feel more in control of things.

More Letters from Readers Like You

Here are just a few of the many letters I’ve received from readers…

Judy Woods Bookseller

It was a true blessing

“”I just had to write this letter to let you know how much we as a family appreciated your book. My Mom was 86 when she came to live with us and my husband and I went through your book and planned everything in advance…. When she passed away, everything was all there ready for me to just go down the list and phone. We had done it all beforehand. Thank you so much for your book. It was a true blessing.”.”

Dr. Gerry Jampolsky Best-selling author of
Love is Letting Go of Fear

a most helpful book

“A most helpful book filled with nuggets of practical information about how to deal with death and grief.”


Dante Maure Business owner,
Honolulu, Hawaii

Great contribution

“I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the gift of your book. I haven’t read it in its entirety yet, but already I am appreciating the great contribution you have made to the world in sharing your story and insights with regards to a subject that is of enormous significance and is rarely addressed.”


Jean Farina hospice volunteer,
Langley, British Columbia

excellent book

“Thank you for your excellent book, which is now part of our Hospice Library. I will tout it to the heavens in my corner of the world.”


Jane Bailey Homemaker

tremendously impressed

“My husband and I are tremendously impressed with what you have done. Your wonderful book will relieve the sleepless nights of so many facing the death of a loved one, and the terrible anxiety of what to do when it happens. I particularly like the worksheets, which can be photocopied and ready for instant access.”


Willie Robinson, Jr Melbourne, Australia

invaluable e-book

“I would like to thank you again for your kind words and invaluable e-book which helped me earlier this year when going through my father’s funeral. It helped me more than you will know.”


What does this mean for you?

  • You’ll feel confident writing the obituary Step-by-step guidelines and samples will make this difficult job easier for you.
  • You’ll be able to explain your decisions to others One of the advantages of using Saying Goodbye With Love is that it will help you avoid criticism from others in your family who would have done things differently. (You’ll be able to share with them all the reasons why your choices make sense.)
  • The checklist style simplifies the whole process Checklists in every chapter make it easy for you to zero in on the right things to do, and to know instantly whether or not you’ve completed a particular step.
  • You will focus only on what you can handle at the moment Each chapter deals with just one topic … everything from how to negotiate with the funeral home … to how to plan the reception. A job which seemed overwhelming to you now becomes manageable.
  • You’ll become more knowledgeable The knowledge you gain will make you more comfortable that the decisions you’re making are right for you and your family.
  • You’ll read compelling stories from other survivors just like you My favorite parts of this book are the stories from readers like you. They help us all to realize, “I’m not alone.” You’ll also find fresh ideas about how to make your goodbye service special.
  • You can use Saying Goodbye with Love to prepare in advance You’ll have more time to think things through calmly. You can do a little at a time … as much as you can handle. You’ll gain peace of mind, knowing that so many decisions and tasks have been taken care of in advance.
  • Easy to use at the time of death Saying Goodbye with Love and The Funeral Tool Kit (included with your eBook) are invaluable in the first terrible hours and days right after you’ve learned of a death … when it’s difficult to think straight.
  • You’ll get detailed information on how to estimate your costs Chapter 7, How to Keep the Costs Down, will help you make smart decisions about what is, and is not, a necessary expense. And if you’re preparing in advance, you’ll be able to set aside enough money to cover your costs.
  • How to work with the funeral director Chapter 8, Meeting with the Funeral Director, gives you the information you need so you won’t feel intimidated or pressured when you meet with the funeral home.
  • You’ll go from feeling overwhelmed … to knowing “I can handle this.” With this eBook by your side, you’ll no longer be afflicted by a mountain of decisions. Instead, you’ll easily sort them out into small, simple steps you can take, one at a time.

Could This eBook Make Things Easier For You?

Here’s how to tell if Saying Goodbye with Love will be helpful to you:

  • If someone you love has just died, or is close to death
  • If you have an aging parent
  • If someone you love has a serious illness
  • If you want to make life easier for your own survivors
  • If you understand the importance of preparing for the unexpected
  • If you want to add warmth and love to the funeral service of someone you care deeply for…
  • If you want to learn how to write an obituary
  • If you would like guidance on how to deal with the funeral home

… then Saying Goodbye with Love was written with you in mind.

To receive your copy of Saying Goodbye with Love, simple use the Add to Cart button below. You’ll receive a link to your download right along with your links to A Eulogy to Remember, the Eulogy Meditation, and the Funeral Cost Calculator.


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